Yes, I'm a Failure, and It Is OK!

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Failure is a harsh word; a word we never want used to describe us or our plans. However, I have had many failures in my life. Moreover, I'm not done failing!


One can describe failure as a lack of success or as negligence: not doing something expected. Therefore, failure can be active or passive, and there are thousands, if not millions, of ways to fail in life. To think, how many of us want to pretend the word does not exist? It is easy to think of all that can go right and not consider what could go wrong. 


That being said, I know there will be plenty of failures in my future because the day I stop trying is the day I stop failing. Every day I try to be better than I was the day before. So every day that I wake up, I set myself up for failure. Each day that I have to speak in public, I set myself up for failure. 


BUT, SO WHAT? So what if you make a mistake? So what if you say the wrong word or can't pronounce something correctly the first time? So what? The biggest mistake you can make is being afraid and taking no action. Mistakes happen, failures happen, and it is okay! 


We need to understand that EVERYONE makes mistakes. That little mistake you made only matters to you, and I don't care how much you think someone is flawless; they make mistakes. That CEO who seems perfect; she makes mistakes. The President of the United States, Lord, don't get me started. 


The fact is, WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. WE ALL FAIL! We show up too late. We all have regrets. We all think we should have done this, or we could have done that. 


It is how we recover from our mistakes and failures that matter. Personally, I am a wallower. I need time to be upset, complain, and yes, maybe even cry. However, when I get it all out, I'm in action. I'm looking towards my next steps. What now? What is next? 


You see, you can't wallow long-term. It is detrimental to your physical and mental health, not to mention how it impacts the ones you love and that love you. Yes, failure stings, but, many times, there is a purpose in failure. How many of us are thankful for failed relationships, or a job that we didn't get? Often, our failures bring us to something better. 


Lastly, when you make a mistake or fail at something, you need to learn how to show yourself compassion. Sadly, I learned the concept of self-compassion last year in a yoga class. I wish I knew years ago that I could show myself compassion instead of giving it all to others. It is essential to practice self-compassion when you make mistakes or even the same mistake over and over. Unfortunately, I know all about this subject a little too well. 😬


The question I have for you today is, How will you fail today?


Be blessed,

Jackie W.

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